He Found the Blog: When the Guy You’re Dating Finds Out You QUIT Dating – Pt. 1

He knew a blog existed that I was not ready to share.

…or rather….he knew a blog existed that I wrote about dating on, but he didn’t know that the concept was centered around the fact that I QUIT it.

For some reason, it didn’t really come up, nor did I have an opening where I could effortlessly segue into…”Interesting you say that, I actually own iquitdating.com.”

I knew at some point – if this thing was still a thing – I was going to have to lay out my cards and fess up to the things that I chose to publicly write about (albeit anonymously).

Yet in between the anguish that was sitting in between this guy and this blog, there was a part of me that didn’t think I had to unravel my dating history after a few dates. In this case – I let it go and added it to the list of “things I need to talk to M* about LATER”….much later.

As it turns out, “later” was way earlier than anticipated.

M* is incredibly bright in a SoCal beach meets Silicon Valley nerd kind of way and is here in NY building something in the tech space that has the ability to shake the world in which he inhabits. As a dreamer in my own right, I believe in him, his vision and as the person he’s dating, I try to encourage him and his projects as much as I can.

So when he released a beta for the project that he’s currently working on – of course I would sign up for it in support and solidarity. Yes! I want to be in your beta group! Yes! I want to try out your cool, app-y, thingie!

After entering my email I received a “Thank you for signing up”screen that also informed me that I was 346 on the invite list (I expect to be moved up). In return, he received my Klout score, as well as ALL the internet properties that I own……..like this website.


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J is a happily single 30-something currently documenting her stories of love and loss. Her blog, “I Quit Dating” features excerpts of her journey as she reflects on the lessons learned from the men she loved. A complete collection of essays detailing her walk away from finding Mr. Right in order to pursue a more fulfilled life will be self-published next year. She recently moved from Los Angeles to New York. Contact: iquitdating (@) gmail.com

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