I Love What You Hate – III

Instead of talking about the things we hated, we talked about the things we loved, the things we had in common, the things we talked about and the things we shared until we not only loved the things we loved, but we loved each other.

The idea of “finding someone who hates the things that you hate” was something that I couldn’t shake.

I started talking to people and asking if they were aware of this. I couldn’t be the only one in the dark, could I?

The results were interesting:

Another co-worker married for 20+ years said, “Absolutely! My wife and I are haters. We hate everything!”

I then asked a couple who have been dating for 2+ years and another newly engaged. They both pondered, but after a beat they agreed that they had similar dislikes to their partners and felt that this concept would be advantageous in a relationship.

And lastly,  I  asked my contemporaries, the single people!

And both people I asked said what I most feared.

They both said, “I don’t really hate anything.”



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J is a happily single 30-something currently documenting her stories of love and loss. Her blog, “I Quit Dating” features excerpts of her journey as she reflects on the lessons learned from the men she loved. A complete collection of essays detailing her walk away from finding Mr. Right in order to pursue a more fulfilled life will be self-published next year. She recently moved from Los Angeles to New York. Contact: iquitdating (@) gmail.com

2 thoughts on “I Love What You Hate – III”

    1. I have heard of it and checked out that episode. Thanks for bringing it to my attention! At first I was wondering where the similarity was – but then there it was. 🙂


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