I Love That You Hate What I Hate! – I

I’m a self-proclaimed hater.

I hate sports (unless there’s free food and drinks involved).

I hate the movies (especially funny ones where everyone in the theatre is laughing but me).

I hate bad clothes (Does everyone shop at Old Navy?)

I hate children yelling on an otherwise quiet train. (It’s 11pm. Shouldn’t they be in bed?)

I hate a lot of things.

But I LOVE talking about them. I love talking about the things I hate which is exactly what I was doing when the inspiration for this post came up.

“Listen to me”, says the new metalhead who’s been married for ten years, but sits next to me for most of the day says, “It’s very easy to find someone who likes the things you like, who thinks the way you think, who is able to adapt to another person’s interest because you really like them. It’s another thing to bond over someone who HATES the things you hate. The key to finding your person is finding that someone who HATES the things you hate, because what breaks up relationships?”

Disagreements about the things you hate.

And then I starting thinking about all the times I met someone for the first time and ended up bonding over all the things we liked, the things we were passionate about, the things we LOVED.

“I love that band!”

“Oh my god! I love them too!”

“I love that movie!”

“I know! Wasn’t it the best?”

“I love Mexican food!”

“Me too! Its my favorite!”





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J is a happily single 30-something currently documenting her stories of love and loss. Her blog, “I Quit Dating” features excerpts of her journey as she reflects on the lessons learned from the men she loved. A complete collection of essays detailing her walk away from finding Mr. Right in order to pursue a more fulfilled life will be self-published next year. She recently moved from Los Angeles to New York. Contact: iquitdating (@) gmail.com

4 thoughts on “I Love That You Hate What I Hate! – I”

  1. True, however not all things are hated equally or for the same reasons. Understanding and accepting these differences is essential in a relationship. I find the older my husband and I get, the more things we hate. I agree, hating the same things is just as important as loving the same things.


    1. Thanks so much for reading and for commenting. It’s interesting that you say that as well. It struck a cord with me because I never thought about that before or considered it.


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