Dating is Dead 

Everyone thought I was crazy when I started this blog nearly a year ago – while the others who stood silent couldn’t understand where I was coming from. Then something amazing started to happen – Real writers with real statistics from real psychologists started writing about this new, real world of dating. 

Maybe that girl that was writing at wasn’t so crazy after all…. 

Sorry lovers…..what I’ve said is legit.

Dating is dead.

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J is a happily single 30-something currently documenting her stories of love and loss. Her blog, “I Quit Dating” features excerpts of her journey as she reflects on the lessons learned from the men she loved. A complete collection of essays detailing her walk away from finding Mr. Right in order to pursue a more fulfilled life will be self-published next year. She recently moved from Los Angeles to New York. Contact: iquitdating (@)

15 thoughts on “Dating is Dead ”

  1. I thought it was Interesting that in the Tinder article, one girl said that its a competition to see who “cares less”. I think that’s really telling. Emotional numbness is the norm now and showing vulnerability is lame and weak. Its super sad. I’m 35 and have officially quit dating. I have not been in a serious relationship in 2 years. I am free from subjecting myself to torturous online dating, hookup culture and pretending that I don’t care. I’m free!


  2. While there are people looking for relationships it seems the majority I came across wanted sex only. Maybe it’s my age because it seems 40+ women get the scraps.


    1. Congrats on your engagement! I agree. I’m actually pro online dating. I actually don’t believe there is much of a difference in online versus in-person when it comes to dating.

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  3. The digital age was suppose to connect people…..I was hoping at an intellectual and philosophical level….not like hardware parts at the store…. The curse of “now” and “impulsiveness”.


  4. Ha ha, who would’ve thunk, there’s quite a bit of empirical data on your theory.
    I’d be interested to see how this new trend affects our ability to emotionally connect in a healthy way later in life. As far as I know, it doesn’t seem like our basic needs (according to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs) have changed. Relationships used to be the way to have sexual gratification and emotional connection. Without the emotional element, are those people hurting them selves in the long run? I think yes, but it would be interesting to see the data


      1. I think people are hurting themselves, too, but one of the problems in studying and measuring the fallout is that it’s so hard to define what it looks like to “emotionally connect in a healthy way.” I have this horrible suspicion that a lot of the people who support the hook-up culture do so because they don’t have much of an ability to emotionally connect to begin with. There seem to be more and more people like that out there today, and they represent a kind of new normal. How do you measure “unhealthy” when they’re perfectly happy with their state of being and consider themselves fine?


  5. Ugh. It’s like this for people m age, too. (although, I don’t and never would use tunder). Men online date just for sex. They are not looking for love or even friendship. It’s sad.


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