Let’s Get Back Together…..

It’s been a long three months my friends.

So long that I wish I had a better story to tell as to how this blog – one that started with so much fist punching dating anarchy ended up buried.

Did she meet someone?

Did she get married?

Did she start dating?

Did she die?


Then why did her blog?

I never had trouble expressing my feelings and thoughts about love. Brutally honest to a fault at times, this blog gave me the courage to discuss the men, the life lessons and the honest truths that I believe to be true. All that courage that helped me feel powerful instead of another victim on cupid’s list.

At least I felt like I was – my own version of a riot girl who didn’t care what people thought, argued with anyone (and everyone) who tried to push their points and blogged my way to what I felt was dating gospel in the year 2015.

Then something else happened. Something not related to dating or men and suddenly I didn’t want to talk about it. I didn’t want to talk or write or argue because I was suddenly embarrassed and depressed about what happened to me. After months of friends saying, “It’s so courageous to talk as you do,” “You’re really putting it all out there, aren’t you?”

Suddenly there was something that I didn’t want to talk about and I didn’t want to discuss.

I had found my boundary that I didn’t even know existed. I had found that one thing about life that I didn’t want to discuss or talk about.

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J is a happily single 30-something currently documenting her stories of love and loss. Her blog, “I Quit Dating” features excerpts of her journey as she reflects on the lessons learned from the men she loved. A complete collection of essays detailing her walk away from finding Mr. Right in order to pursue a more fulfilled life will be self-published next year. She recently moved from Los Angeles to New York. Contact: iquitdating (@) gmail.com

6 thoughts on “Let’s Get Back Together…..”

  1. Although none of us can truly feel what another person is feeling, we can have empathy and compassion having gone through similar experiences. I thought I was going to say all kinds of good things about the aging process but I found that most had been said much better by others, or so I felt. I haven’t posted since February. Your blog is lively, forthcoming, witty and much more. I hope you will
    come back and post again. Your voice makes for good listening and a smile along the way too.


    1. I find myself asking myself that question as well – It’s that constant feeling of – There are so many people doing so many things and SAYING so many things…Why does the world need me to do it to? And then I started to think that maybe THEY don’t, but I NEED to and have the right to. express myself. I suppose it’s true what they say, you have to blog for the love of writing instead of the love of being read. I do appreciate your comment though on my blog. It means a lot and I hope you will come back too!


  2. First of all welcome back, even if it’s in a limited capacity. While our individual experiences may vary, I know what you mean about talking. Last year I either wrote every week, or commented, found a way to keep talking. Then at some point, the pendulum swung back the other way. The same events that were inspiration to speak up, to be bold, and to share my story. Felt like an anchor, what have I really accomplished? While I’m more open to talking about myself, have I been able to get any closer to improving relationship wise, career, or life goals wise. The simple answer is no. My skeletons still haunt me, and now, I just want to hide in my cave and not talk to anyone.
    If this sounds familiar, I hear what you’re saying. I can say those things that make ME feel good. Like keep your head up, stay positive, you’ll get what you’re looking for. Since I’m not so sure that’s true for me, I’ll spare you the same potentially empty promises.


    1. Thanks so much! Yes…that is how I get. I’m one of those people that does so much when things are great, but find myself doing NOTHING, including hobbies when things aren’t so great which I suppose goes a long with my all or nothing personality. Also appreciate the realness in your last bit. I have trouble with the overly optimistic as well. It usually causes me to shake them and say GET REAL! It’ll turn eventually though. It always does….just sometimes a lot longer for some than others.

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