Valentine’s Day Isn’t Always What It Seems – Getting Dumped By Cupid

One year I received roses for Valentine’s Day. Cliche to some and ritual to others, these roses from a musician I was seeing were not just roses, they were ROSES. I’m not sure where they came from, but they were so beautifully unique that if he told me they were flown in from some remote fantasyland where they were genetically engineered somewhere in the abyss, I think I would have believed him. Never have I seen a rose (or in this case 2-dozen) so very perfect, so very beautiful and so very expensive since, well ever. But before you start thinking that J nabbed herself a successful lead singer who had some serious dough to burn, rest assure that is not the case. At the time, this musician was a scab during a well-known union dispute and was making $50 an hour stocking canned-goods at a grocery store nearly 3000 miles away.

He must have liked me though, right?

He did. He liked me so much that when I called to thank him, he was unreachable.


I’m guessing he went to the land where these roses came from and got lost.

But I digress.

The reason I share this story is:

A. It’s funny. After all these years, my mom and I still talk about those ROSES and how we can’t believe that I never spoke to him again.

B. Getting dumped by cupid and wallowing in my own misery on Valentine’s Day taught me that love, in all its forms, is often most prevalent in the every day mundane by people who genuinely love me.

It reminded me of the people who freely step up to love me when things in my life go off the tracks. I thought I saw love one way, from one person, but I ended up finding it in a different place, from a different person who freely stepped up to comfort me. They comforted me on Valentine’s day, a day of love. That is what Valentine’s day is all about. It’s about celebrating love in all its forms.

So I ask you what I’ve asked myself:

Who in your life puts you back together? Who freely and repeatedly steps up in your time of need?

That is Love. That is what should be celebrated.

Happy Valentine’s Day.

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J is a happily single 30-something currently documenting her stories of love and loss. Her blog, “I Quit Dating” features excerpts of her journey as she reflects on the lessons learned from the men she loved. A complete collection of essays detailing her walk away from finding Mr. Right in order to pursue a more fulfilled life will be self-published next year. She recently moved from Los Angeles to New York. Contact: iquitdating (@)

9 thoughts on “Valentine’s Day Isn’t Always What It Seems – Getting Dumped By Cupid”

  1. I have completely enjoyed your blog,
    I was married my early 20’s and divorced by 37. I’m now 40. I went crazy dating anyone I was remotely interested in. I even continued to date someone that I knew I wasn’t “in love with” for over a year. Until I knew I needed to let him go. I never had to break someone’s heart. I came across your blog, and it’s spoke volumes to me. What if I was chasing the things that made me happy than chasing someone ?


    1. Thank you so much for the kind words….that’s the question I’ve posed to myself and throughout this blog….what if I chase that instead of this? Glad that you were able to connect with my experiences…


  2. As a one the relationship who’s supposed to deliver roses…I have to admit that I’ve always found the act of presenting flowers a bit contrived. The way in which one delivers them, the occasion, and the truth of sentiment – all must coalesce for me to feel honest about the gift…if that makes sense. Most of the time…it’s just roses just because…
    At any rate…this is not the best Valentine for me. I’m still “healing” a very painful broken heart with little hope of reprieve. However…I have my son with me today…


    1. I think for me, I just really love flowers as I’m sure you’ve noticed from all the photography…so getting something I love from someone I love is natural. Even if it wasn’t tradition, I feel it’s still something someone would give me. I hope things get better for you and I hope you do something fun with your son. Things will get better.

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  3. That’s crazy that he gave you two dozen roses – I’ve NEVER had 2 dozen roses….well at least you got the loveliest roses you’ve ever had…I wonder why you never saw him again…no explanation???? weird


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