I’ve talked before about my distaste, dislike and distrust regarding “The Art of the Chase” in dating before.
How could I not and what kind of blogger about dating (or rather their lack of) would I be if I didn’t?
All the rules, all the psychology and all the ‘proven?!’ methods that exist with the sole purpose of pretending to be disinterested to make the other person MORE interested.
The articles that say, “10 Ways to Woo Any Woman.”
Make them feel they aren’t the only one! Don’t answer texts right away! Don’t be to A-VAI-LAB-LE!
That is chasing. That is dating. We can complain and lament all we want, but if you want to play, that is what you must do.
End of Story.
However, the more I started to read and the more I started to take stock of my own life for myself and for this blog, the more I realized that chasing people in dating, whether it be to play hard to get or to get the hard to play, is not the only type of chasing.
Sometimes we find ourselves chasing an idea, or a future that we so desperately want in the form of a person that is likely not right for us, or even worse, we find ourselves chasing the IDEA of “Happily Ever After” that we’ve envisioned and dreamed of for ourselves.
We’re chasing websites, apps, texts, numbers, all in the hopes of HELPING fate.
Fate forgot me. Fate got lost. It must have surely, WHERE THE HELL IS HE?!
One more swipe, one more profile, one more night out….He’s out there! I know it!
And in the middle of all that, I have another viewpoint.
What if we chased something else instead of chasing “him” or the idea of what he will and should be?
What if we made our own life the best it could be without worrying about meeting “him”?
What if we tried to do all the things we want to do, even if it means doing them alone?
What would you chase?