Swiping Soulmates

In case you missed it, my post, “Swiping Soulmates” was featured on The Fickle Heartbeat yesterday. As you can imagine, it’s tremendously exciting (and a little scary!) to have one’s deeply, personal words posted for all the world to see, even though I’ve been doing that here on this blog now for some time.

It’s not perfect. This essay is far from perfect with it’s imperfect sentence structures and unfortunate mistypes. At first, I felt like Carrie as she was waiting for the bus with her picture to come by only to find that someone has already desecrated it with some unsightly graffiti. Where was my head? Why didn’t I edit better? How could I have misspelled MATCH?! (No wonder I can’t find one!)

But then I realized that I have to get over it. I have to trust the loving readers of the Fickle Heartbeat, as I have to all who have stumbled on my blog, to read my words for what they are. I have to take my friends’ advice that they often sing to me. I have to “Let It Go!”

I wasn’t going to blog, especially when so many of my posts are wildly unfinished and lack the editing prowess of someone who knows more about what they’re doing. But I soon learned that sometimes you have to DO even though you DON’T KNOW HOW, which is exactly what I’m doing here. All this writing and thinking about feelings, places, people, all while working to make these stories better even after the publish button goes click click.

It’s a work in progress as they say, but really…Aren’t we all?

Originally Posted Here –


xo, J

The Fickle Heartbeat


Shared by Jennifer.

Brown hair, Blue eyes…Swipe…Swipe…

David, Michael….Swipe..Swipe…

All these faces…All these names….All these photos…All these people with their hobbies..

Their friends…Their lives….or at least the part of their lives that they’re comfortable sharing with the world.

Partly truth, Partly lies…

They share the most perfect part of their lives….

This one has a nice smile.

This one has pretty eyes.

This one looks funny.

This one looks lonely………..

Because isn’t that why we’re all doing this? Isn’t this why, no matter how it begins and despite what our true intentions are –  Aren’t we all trying to swipe FOR someone? TO someone?

Yet why don’t we admit it? Why are we uncomfortable saying, “I’m on this stupid app because I’m lonely” even though more often than not, that is the unspoken truth.

Instead we make laughable excuses like, “I just fool around on it when I’m drunk…

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J is a happily single 30-something currently documenting her stories of love and loss. Her blog, “I Quit Dating” features excerpts of her journey as she reflects on the lessons learned from the men she loved. A complete collection of essays detailing her walk away from finding Mr. Right in order to pursue a more fulfilled life will be self-published next year. She recently moved from Los Angeles to New York. Contact: iquitdating (@) gmail.com

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