I Don’t Play This Dating Game

Then what is the problem? I’m meeting all these interesting people and I seem to know how to date. What is it that I hate?

It’s the game.

The stressful, unpredictable, dishonest game called dating that always seems to begin the minute I say, “Sure! you can text me,” no matter how hard I try to sit out.

It doesn’t start that way. I’m not a game player. I’m an honest, open person who doesn’t like the psychology of dating, nor do I get any personal satisfaction that I’m being chased. If I like a person, I’m not going to pretend to be busy, wait X amount of minutes or hours in between texts, or make plans with friends because the last thing I want to do is have this guy think I’m waiting around for him, despite that being exactly what I’m doing. I don’t do those things, yet I always seem to have to because the other person that I have entered the situation with is.

“But Jen, If a guy really likes you, he won’t do that…”

Maybe he won’t, however, I’ve been in that place too as you’ll see in my next story.

Stick with me….I’m just getting started.

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J is a happily single 30-something currently documenting her stories of love and loss. Her blog, “I Quit Dating” features excerpts of her journey as she reflects on the lessons learned from the men she loved. A complete collection of essays detailing her walk away from finding Mr. Right in order to pursue a more fulfilled life will be self-published next year. She recently moved from Los Angeles to New York. Contact: iquitdating (@) gmail.com

10 thoughts on “I Don’t Play This Dating Game”

  1. I’m with you, if I like someone I don’t piss about and not reply to texts ect. I don’t pverload them with contact them but I treat a person I am dating as I would anyone else, they text or whatever, and I reply.


  2. I get what you mean! I refuse to play the game either which is why I probably don’t get asked out… but i can’t stand the games we’re expected to play in order to date. I would rather stick with the popular quote, boys are stupid, throw rocks at them then join the dating world 😛


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