Thanks For Being YOU!

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Whomever is reading this, and I know someone IS, because I’ve been happily watching the stat counter go up everyday, I want to tell you something. I want to tell you that it’s ok to feel however it is that you feel that led you to reading my blog. Maybe you feel like me, maybe you’re heartbroken, maybe you just want to read stories about someone who isn’t you, maybe you feel sorry for me or feel hope that I’m going to change my mind someday. Whatever the reason is, I want you to know that it’s ok to be you, whomever that is, and to feel the way you do.

As I’ve been traveling on this new path of “I Quit Dating,” I’ve been met with all types of comments from everyone. Mostly negative sprinkled with “You’re RIGID!”…”You’re too young to be doing this!”…”You COULD BE missing out on something great!” No one said, “It’s ok to feel the way you do.” No one said, “If this is what makes you happy, you should do it. You should BE YOU,” because they’ve been to busy dishing out advice. So I want to tell you, incase no one told you today that I’m glad you’re here. I’m glad you stumbled on this blog and I’m grateful that you’re reading my stories. Most importantly, I’m glad YOU”RE YOU and you should be too. xo – J

Photo Taken By Me in Venice, CA

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J is a happily single 30-something currently documenting her stories of love and loss. Her blog, “I Quit Dating” features excerpts of her journey as she reflects on the lessons learned from the men she loved. A complete collection of essays detailing her walk away from finding Mr. Right in order to pursue a more fulfilled life will be self-published next year. She recently moved from Los Angeles to New York. Contact: iquitdating (@)

4 thoughts on “Thanks For Being YOU!”

  1. I shouldn’t be surprised, but I was surprised that you mentioned that you got a lot of negative comments. I’ll start my comment with a quote from Brene Brown, “Unless you’re in the ring, also getting your butt kicked, I’m not interested in your feedback.”
    Lol I love this quote because most people don’t understand what you’re telling them. At first it sounds like you’re saying “thanks but shut the f.. up” The beauty of this quote is that you’re saying, unless someone understands the nuances of your situation, or have been in one that’s very similar, you’re not going to listen to their feedback. Or more importantly, you’re not going to let their negative feedback consume your thoughts.
    Just as you said “it’s OK to be YOU” I say ignore the naysayers, because chances are with your reflection and introspection, you WILL grow into a better version of yourself. The reality is that many people won’t understand why it’s important for YOU to quit dating. You will succeed in overcoming the obstacles they couldn’t, or worse yet the ones they don’t even know they have.

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