Silencing The Critics

And then I started thinking, how am I going to silence my friendly foes…my skeptics…all who are going to label me as a bitter, hypocritical 30-something?

How was I going to rationally explain that I wasn’t walking away simply because I failed, but because I really am choosing my life instead of searching for the proverbial Mr. Right?

Many would say that I don’t have to explain myself. This is my blog damn it, so I’ll do what I want. However, I didn’t want this heartfelt mode of self expression to be that kind of forum. I wanted to be honest of course, but I also wanted to be fair which can be a very difficult feat to accomplish when discussing anything people are passionate about, especially when it comes to matters so closely guarded as the heart.

So I did what I always do when I’m up against a basket full of choices, I researched,  I made lists, I wondered the aisles of the self-help section at my local Barnes and Nobles, I talked to people and even posted an ad on craigslist to try and gain insight into how people really felt about love (that I don’t normally do, trust me). I did this all in the name of locating answers from people like me. However, as hard as I looked to try and gain some insight into the different ways that I was going to build my argument, the more I realized that the only way to do this was to tell my story, because isn’t what this blog, that maybe someday would turn into a book really about? My story, my life and how I arrived at this place?

Playing Catch-Up? The Start of the Story

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J is a happily single 30-something currently documenting her stories of love and loss. Her blog, “I Quit Dating” features excerpts of her journey as she reflects on the lessons learned from the men she loved. A complete collection of essays detailing her walk away from finding Mr. Right in order to pursue a more fulfilled life will be self-published next year. She recently moved from Los Angeles to New York. Contact: iquitdating (@)

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